Tim Tebow, Roevy, and Awesome Last Names

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Tim Tebow:

How do I feel about abortion? A bit of a heavy handed question to start out a blog post on a Sunday afternoon. I both agree and disagree with it. One thing is for sure I absolutely think that it should be legal. The Government has no right in telling anyone what they can and can not do with their own body. Not to mention the repercussions that if made illegal our country would face with teen deaths in botched back ally abortions or the huge rise in demand for social programs. I do think that sometimes abortion is seen as the easy option which is where my uneasiness with it comes from. Instead of being responsible and using protection, some women use abortion as their anti-pregnancy plan. Which I can't imagine, in the long run, could be very good for that woman's body, but the one thing that makes me a staunch pro-choicer is that if I was in the position that so many young women face today with unwanted pregnancy, I honestly don't know if I would choose to keep it.
As I get older and am now in a very serious relationship I know that I would more likely than not, keep the baby. I can't say that I felt that way a couple years ago or even a year ago. I am so unsure of what I would do hypothetically, how could I ever judge someone who had to face this gut wrenching choice in real life?
Now, how does Tim Tebow fit in to this discussion. I am sure most of you who read this know since you are all very informed people. In case you don't, the short version is due to lack in sales for Superbowl commercials, for the first time CBS is allowing advocacy commercials to air. Family First is showing an anti-abortion ad with Tim Tebow talking about how he is happy that his mother didn't abort him. While I am all about people having freedom of speech and I am fine with people who disagree with abortion, here is my one problem with this commercial. Tim Tebow does not have a vagina.
I do think that if a man is in a situation with a women where there is a unwanted pregnancy that he should have a say in what happens to "his" child, but I do not think that a man has a right to make a blanket statement about something he will never personally have to face. When I say personally have to face, I am speaking in terms of being pregnant and/or having an abortion. So in conclusion

Dear Family First,

If you want to make an impact on those who might choose abortion, use a spokesperson who has the ability or had the ability to become pregnant.

Thanks

E


Next on the Agenda: RoeVy

Columbus is a huge hipster city. It still makes me giggle sometimes to think how in Bluffton, I was the "odd" one but now in Columbus, I am pretty standard comparatively. In Columbus there are these dance parties for those of us slightly off-beat people who love to dance but hate to be inappropriately groped by a stranger at your local chauch bar. (Don't get me wrong though I do love me a chauch bar every once in a while, just not the groping part). These dance parties are monthly at different bars but you can usually find one every weekend if you know where to look. The one thing I love about this parties (beside drunken party dancing which is a good workout which assuages my guilt about the amount of alcohol calories I am ingesting) is RoeVy. They are a two man DJ group who are just amazing.



Everyone should check them out!


Finally Awesome Last Names:

Our friends are all getting married. So between planning our own weddings and being in/attending others, talk of switching last names has come up a lot. When I was younger, I was hell bent on changing my last name. I used to hate it, it's long and complicated and never pronoucned correctly (Even at my college graduation). As I have aged I have learn to love the uniqueness of my last name. My family are the only Siebanollers, who spells their names that way, although as I found out this summer, is the incorrect way.
Now the fact that I will soon have to make a decision about what to do with my name, I am not so sure I am willing to get rid of it. My friend Erin recently married and just added her husbands name as a second last name (Erin Clevenger Painter). She said this makes things easy because since she is still retaining her maiden name she didn't really have to go and change anything (bills, documents, etc). She didn't hyphenate because then she would have to change all the usual things you would if she just had completed changed her last name to Painter.
While talking to our friends Pat and Ali who are to be married in April, Pat made a comment about taking Ali's last name as a little jab to his paternal side of the family. Ali had some reservations about this for the same reasons I have reservations about not changing my name at all. Which is the idea that if we don't change our names, even if just by adding our soon to be husbands, then it will always be assumed that we are not married and makes things a little confusing when we decide to have children.
So I suggested creating a whole new last name. The more I think about it, the better this idea seems. Not only to we get to define our relationship by our terms of creating a new last name, but we could have a really badass name as well! For example; The Bonecrushers! Just imagine, "table for two Bonecrusher table for two."! My friend Erin suggested the name Dethmachine (spelled the metal way of course) and then giving our children the middle name of "the".

ex Evangeline The Dethmachine.

You really can't get any more badass/metal than that. I really like this idea for more than just the kitsch value of it. The idea that we are starting a new family unit together, that we don't have to choose that one person's last name is more important than the other and creating an equal partnership by creating a new one.

Now I don't think there is anything wrong with someone taking their husbands last name. Some people may feel like I did before about their last names and can't wait to get rid of it. I also feel under most circumstances there needs to be some sort of change to acknowledge that as a couple you have married. except for say someone who has made a name for themselves with their maiden name (author, celebrity, ect). Since there is always the social stigma that if a women has her maiden name then she is not married and this sometimes leads to some confusion when children are involved. A friend of mine has expressed some concern about when she gets married she wasn't sure about the last name situation since her child has her last name (maiden) and she couldn't change her child's last name without consent from the father who is now a active part of the child's life.

I have a while to decide but the more I think about it, the better the idea seems. Who knows come next year I could be the new Mrs. Dethmachine.